Saturday, October 20, 2007
The Stress and Tension of Families
Did you know that the stress and tension during a family's loss can feel like you are being strangled or that you want to strangle someone else? It is amazing that with all of the losses we've had in our family over the last 15 years I've never felt as much tension and stress as with this loss. Family members are at each others throats, the "I want this or that" is not nearly as apparent as you'd think. However, "the get rid of this", "no, we need to save this", "take this out of the attic", "no, wait, put it back up there" is causing us horrendous stress (especially to the knees). The emotions are all churned up. The body is aching from the trips up and down, carrying load after load of "junk" and not eating the way we normally do. But we will survive~~~
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I am so sorry for your loss. Time only heals, as you know. Lossing a loved one is always complicated. In theory, it should be simple. A person lives a life and dies. But the death can be just as complicated as the life. Hold on to your faith, and may God wrap his loving arms around you and your family!
What an amazing tribute to your father-in-law. He would be proud, I'm sure. Way to go, Shelley.
Just remember, God is in control, and He will see you through.
I have always said that death reveals the true identity of those left living...it never ceases to amaze me at how families can be hugging and crying and carrying on and then behind closed doors when it is time to sort through, weed out, throw out, etc OH MY GOODNESS!!! It can be vicious! Nothing (at least nothing that I have encountered so far in my life) exposes a person's core like a death of a loved one. I am sorry for your loss and sorry that this time is stressful. From reading the beautiful tribute you wrote, it seems that the family should be celebrating a life instead of stressing.
Hang in there...time has a way of always working things out. God is in the midst of the stress too...
In all this it is important to remember that you all are suffering in some way. Grief changes people. It brings out so much that we don't want to show, but if you try and remember that it is the hurt speaking, then it might be understandable. Grief and these situations makes me wish that you CAN take it with you go on.
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